For many years my husband and I hosted Thanksgiving at our house in Pennsylvania. The tradition started a couple years after we were married. My mother-in-law, Salome, always wanted Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner between 2 or 3 p.m. This did not allow my mother time to have lunch or dinner. My mother-in-law wanted all holidays at her house because she only had one child and my mother had three. So the dispute started.

After a long discussion, Salome chose Christmas and gave Thanksgiving to my mother. We would visit both homes but only eat at one. Our arrangement lasted for a couple of years until my mother-in-law put her foot down and wanted both holidays once again. So, to keep the peace, I started cooking Thanksgiving at my house. This still did not satisfy my mother-in-law, but it was the best I could do.